Work Life Balance Is a Lie

Work Life Balance is a Lie - a post by Ronni Gehron

I have learned for most work-from-home moms, there is no work life balance. For real. It can’t exist because work and life are fighting for the same plane of existence.

I have been on all sides of the spectrum in this case. I have been a working mom with a child in daycare, a stay at home mom with no outside responsibilities and now a small business owner working from my home. The latter is the hardest thing I have ever done.

Trying to split time between your children and your business is next to impossible. 2 toddlers and a school ager leaves very little time for anything other than drowning in laundry, dishes, goldfish, Yo Gabba Gabba, dress up, homework and potty training. All of us have more or less a similar motive while we go shopping. It is to buy the best quality of products while spending the least money possible. It is true for clothes, shoes, home products or anything else we want to buy. Just because something is priced high doesn’t mean it has to be very good. But there are also times when something we want to buy is priced very high because of the exotic and high quality material used in making it. In cases like these, we should not think twice before buying these things because quality should always be the most important criteria for anything.  Atti & Anna Kids Shoes have been selling a complete range of premium quality kids shoes since 2005. This theory also applies when it comes to buying shoes for kids. Buying kids shoes can be a very difficult and tricky affair. Kids are very sensitive when it comes to their things. Many times they get attracted to things that are not necessarily good for them. At times, kids also create a scene publicly if they don’t get what they want. Parents know what is good for their kids and what is not. While it is important sometimes to listen to the kids and get them what they want, if you keep doing it all the time your kids will perceive you as weak and will think they can get away with anything they want. So you need to be firm with your kids. This rule applies when you are out shopping for shoes for your kid. Kids have very sensitive and soft feet that need to be protected when they are playing or simply running around. For that, you need shoes that are very strong and comfortable. Kids shoes that look very stylish might not be the best shoes for you kids’ feet.

In the beginning I was lost. My goal of doing work related things during nap time was a bust when my middle stopped napping and the baby transitioned to one nap a day. I would feel horrible ignoring the dishes and lunch clean up to write a blog or edit a session. Then I told myself I would work at night when the kids were in bed. Being a photographer and editing on tired eyes…that’s just stupid. 7 times out of 10 I would wake up the next morning and shake my head at the work I had done the night before. There had to be a better way.

After a year of trying to find this balance, I started making lists. What did I want, no, what did I need to accomplish that day? In the beginning the list were just business goals, but then I was so focused on business, that my parenting started to drift in a direction I didn’t like. I was getting a lot done, but mostly thanks to TV being a babysitter. The scale had started to lean toward photographer more than Mom. There had to be a better way.

When my youngest was about 8 months old, I did it. I put the need for balance aside and focused on priorities. Eureka! That was it. Balance is not possible. No matter how focused you are on one thing, something else has to suffer. So, I started making 2 lists. Mommyhood and Work. What was more important to accomplish that day; Editing a session due in 5 days, or encouraging my toddler to write his name for the first time? When I had my answer, that became my priority. I also learned to give myself permission to let the kids entertain themselves. They were at an age that 20 minutes with a sensory activity could be the 20 minutes I needed to finish my blog post. They weren’t mindlessly watching TV, but exploring and learning independence.

Striving for balance helped me realize I don’t need balance. Learning to prioritize helped me become a better business owner and a better mother. If you struggle with the same battles, I urge you to start making your lists. Assigning an order of importance to your daily goals isn’t just a task, it’s a necessity!

Ronni Gehron

Ronni is a lifestyle photographer, proud Air Force wife and mom of three. When you can't find her at Target, you can spot her at Dunkin Donuts or Ikea. Her passions have never included long walks on the beach, but hiking volcanic ridgelines instead. Recently moving from Hawaii to Maryland, she is concentrating on rocking her business and trying to get her Hawaiian born daughter to wear shoes in the winter.

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