If you’ve ever picked up a Cosmo, you know that there are apparently many ways to have the “best sex ever”, and every month they find a new tip, position or toy to spice up your night.
This elusive “best sex ever” idea is crazy making. Seeing headlines that constantly tell us we are shitty in bed makes us feel unsexy, and in turn, makes us overthink it. Overthinking anything keeps us stuck in our heads, and totally missing out on what is happening in the moment. How fuck up is that?!
Instead of picking up the newest issue of Redbook, Cosmo or Hot Sex Monthly, try this instead: stop over thinking it.
Let me repeat myself: STOP OVER-THINKING IT. If you can, get out of your head entirely, and get into your body. Stop worrying about what your thighs look like in this light, or if you will do something awkward (spoiler alert: even good sex is awkward sometimes).
Unless you are starring in a porno, you don’t have to give a fuck about doing things “perfect” or the “right way”. If you and your partner communicate with each other, you will know what feels right, and what doesn’t.
DO MORE OF WHAT FEELS RIGHT. STOP GIVING A FUCK.
Being in the moment and enjoying yourself is so much more fun than worrying about cellulite and the way your tummy jiggles when you are getting it on. Most likely, your lover won’t give a fuck, because they are too busy enjoying sexy time with you, so get over it!
If you are still having issues, get yourself in the mood. Dress up, do your hair, light some candles, put on some hot tunes, and bring out your inner sex kitten. Do whatever you need to do to warm up that oven of yours.
Just make sure you don’t over-think it, and you should be well on your way to great sex.