Marriage is hard work. Balancing marriage, careers and children at the same time is even harder. Many times we become so focused on everything else going on we forget the importance of keeping the lines of communication and “Language of Love” open; more on that in a minute. I have always said, to be the best mother I can be to my children I need to make my marriage and my relationship with my spouse a priority. Just like a Happy Mom = Happy Baby, a Happy Marriage = a functioning family. If you were to ask me 10 years ago what made me feel appreciated by my spouse I probably would have said something about little gifts and holding hands and stuff like that but now, 10 years later my answer is very different.
After 16 years together with my spouse I have finally started to learn his “Language of Love”, the simple ways of communicating with him for him to know I love him which varies from person to person. Recently I discovered an awesome book by Gary Chapman called “The 5 LoveLanguages”, as a marriage counselor to couples through the years brought him to realize that what makes one person feel loved does not necessarily make another person feel loved. For years he helped couples in the counseling office discover what their spouse desired in order to feel loved. Eventually, he began to see a pattern in their responses. Their answers fell into five categories; the five love languages.
One night, when the kids are in bed, pull out a bottle of wine and both of you take the test here:
Go through the answers and talk about them, you might be surprised to learn what your lovelanguage is and what your spouses is as well. The simple act of affirmation, touch or service from day to day can help to turn those days of stress and tension into ones of appreciation andlove. Try it!
I believe in Love at first sight- I met my husband on his 18th birthday and the rest is history
I’m passionate about a women’s right to birth without fear or pressure whether that is at home or in a hospital, I’ve done it in both places.
I have two beautiful girls, Alexa and Arya, 5.5 years apart. I believe each of my daughters was sent to me to remind me of a piece of myself I have lost along the way, it has been exciting journey to rekindle those parts of “ME” again.
We live on a little River in Southbury, CT with our Rotti Beagle mix, a Crazy 1 year old German Shephard and a fat cat that won’t leave the basement, he might be to fat to climb the stairs.
I love a good margarita on the rocks with Salt but ONLY if my husband makes it with hand squeezed lemons, limes and homemade simple syrup, any other margarita sucks.
I listen to “pitbull” in the car with my daughters, they have no idea who Raffi is but Alexa knows most of the words to “Calle Ocho”
I’m the girl who will love you fiercely but is not afraid to “tell you like it is”, if I do, it means I actually care about you!
I love my girls but there are many days I don’t like them or want to be around them. Yep, I just said that, its normal for you to feel that too!
I believe that mothers a given a handbook when their baby is born, its called “intuition” and it will never lead her astray.
I am a photographer who helps women “Celebrate the Courageous journey of motherhood”