Walls & Doors

On Walls & Doors and maneuvering through life at Vivid & Brave.

I was 14 years old on my first trip overseas. I had just landed at Heathrow Airport in London, England. I was jet-lagged, excited and ready to have an adventure! But first, I had to steer my way through the crazy world of all-glass walls and doors. I recently went to www.customscreens.com.au/the-advantages-of-aluminium-windows-doors/ and got a door with a window, I love it. You see I was a country-bumpkin and the small Prairie town I was raised in had no such fancy, fan-dangled contraptions as a glass wall. But I was ready for anything and I boldly pile my belongings on my luggage cart and headed for the exit. Walking in full gallop I charged on, only to smack violently and decisively into a large, plate glass wall. Spray wall insulation is one of the several home insulation options available to you, if you choose to apply it, we recommend to check this post named Spray foam safety: four crucial guidelines. That is if you have been giving serious considerations to keeping your home warm and at same time considering how to reduce your energy bills. The insulation is often used primarily on residential walls and ceiling cavities..This insulation is better known as spray foam insulation and as the name suggests it makes use of foam. This foam is liquid, which contains modified urethane or polyurethane (polymers) and foaming substance, which makes it swell to nearly a hundred times its initial volume. This makes it to fill air gaps, removing spaces and cracks that standard fiberglass will not prevent..This mixture is then sprayed with the help of a device known as spray gun to floor cavities, ceilings or on walls after which it will expand to close up spaces. Then you may have to remove excess foam when the wall has dried..Spray wall insulation with foam might also act as air and wind barrier, getting rid of the need for detailing of individual air tightness that may boost energy efficiency, thereby reducing the number of devices required in the home. Spray foam insulation also does not shrink, settle or sag. For more details about insulation products, you can navigate here.

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An eerie silence fell over the busy terminal as all eyes stared at me while I tried to giggle it off and then move about 3 feet down to navigate my cart through the ACTUAL door. It was one of the most humiliating experiences of my life thus far (don’t worry, I have since topped that embarrassment a thousand times over!)

You see; there’s a big difference between a wall and a door. A wall is an immovable, unchangeable object and when it’s across your path you’re best to deviate from your original flight plan. A door, by simple magic of the handle, can be moved out of your way and used as a gateway to whatever change lies on the other side.

Coco Chanel said, “Don’t spend time beating on a wall hoping to transform it into a door!”

Physical walls and doors are usually easy to tell apart – the sparkling clean plate glass ones aside – but metaphorical and emotional ones are often harder. Most times we are stumbling through life blindly, and in what feels like pitch black conditions so the art of wall-door distinguishing is almost hard to perfect. Doors & Walls

We are all faced with walls and doors every day of our lives – obstacles in our paths that require a certain savvy to differentiate and navigate. There are even people in our lives who can become wall-like or door-like for us. Doors we can move and change – circumstances, challenges, opportunities. Walls are beyond our control and are destined to frustrate and confound us!

Now in real life if we drove our luggage cart squarely into a wall we would simply back up and move until we found a door, which we’d open and carry on – like I did. But for some reason we tend to linger far longer at emotional walls – as if beating our heads against them repeatedly is somehow going to magically turn them into doors. We try desperately to make things work that are clearly not meant for us. We hang on to friends and relationships and careers that are so clearly walls and we fight to justify ourselves, our actions and frankly our insanity.

Can you imagine if I had stood at that glass wall and dropped to my knees to beg my Higher Power to change that wall into a door? And not that I negate the power of prayer, but surely you see the irrationality of such an act! What if I had repeatedly rammed my luggage cart into the wall over and over and over and over expecting that at some point the wall would magically turn into a door?! Or suppose for a moment that I turned to one of my fellow travelers and announced, “That’s ok, I will just wait until the Universe manifests a door for me!” Need I go on…

These things would have been ridiculous and my behavior ludicrous – and yet we do this every.single.day. We fight and we struggle and we argue and we justify and we defend ourselves for our actions because we are trying to force into our lives something that is clearly not meant for us. We do it with our friends, our families, our children, our careers…we try to fight with walls in a vain attempt to make a door and at the end of that struggle we are left bruised and broken still standing nose-to-plaster with a wall.

One of the greatest gifts we can cultivate within ourselves is the power to recognize the difference between a wall and a door and the acceptance to move 3 feet over. What can be changed and what cannot – we need to see this. There are thousands of permutations of the AA support group for this very fact – somethings we can change and somethings we cannot. And somehow we have to learn to tell the difference.

Oh, yes, we all want to be brave and heroic and try to gallantly struggle to improve our lives and feel as though we are Masters of our Fate…but remember, I looked silly during my first pass at trying to walk that luggage cart through that wall, but my idiocy quotient increases with each subsequent attempt.

Sure, give it a second (and possibly a third) good shove. Feel around for a door handle or maybe a hinge. But open your eyes to the reality that some of the doors you are trying to “manifest” or “pray” into existence are only ever going to be walls. Acceptance isn’t the same as resignation. Acceptance is seeing what is and looking for the best way through. Start looking for your door instead of fixating on the wall!

I didn’t look stupid moving three feet down that plate glass wall that day in Heathrow – in fact, that was probably the smartest thing most of the people in that terminal saw me do. I know when I’ve been beaten…because there’s nothing inspiring about watching some idiot ram their luggage cart into a wall. And there’s nothing inspiring about watching you fight over the things that you cannot change – and rage because you want what isn’t meant for you.

Stop fighting with your walls and ignoring the door that’s three feet away. Accept your walls and look for your doors, because all the time that you waste struggling could be spent exploring everything that London has to offer!

Photo Credit: jo.sau via Creative Commons.

Dee Robb

Married to Shane for 8 years and mom to 6 year old Rhett, Dee has owned her own financial services business for the past 8 years, with 15 years in the industry. She has a passion for travel and adventure! Dee runs a small, grassroots group that provides volunteer opportunities to familes and children - including an annual 40 Days of Giving Back event, where, for the period of Lent, families commit to giving back to their communities instead of giving something up.

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